Find your prince charming, get married, have babies, and live happily ever after.”
Thats how easy life of someone in their early 20’s should be right? WRONG! We are one of the 1 in 8 couples who struggle with infertility. There is no words to describe the pain infertility causes, or the stress it puts on not only women but men as well.
Our journey began in 2013 when we got pregnant unplanned. We were both excited..but that excitement was short lived as we endured a miscarriage. 3 years went by and we hadn’t gotten those two pink lines again and each month we were heartbroken. Finally we decided to start out journey at PREG in 2016.
After months of meds,IUI’s, 9hr drives to Ashville we still didnt have our bundle of joy. We were told that I had unexplained infertility and that my husband had low sperm count and motility which was making it really hard to get pregnant and that our best Chance of becoming parents would be through IVF. I just didn’t understand why us?
We learned infertility doesn’t discriminate it can affect anyone no matter their age,weight,or health. We had put off IVF for over a year because we knew the cost of it and there was those heartwrenching questions of “how can we afford this?” What if it doesn’t work?”
Finally in 2017 after losing my daddy we took his advice and took a leap of faith and decided to face infertility head on. We learned that through loans from our bank and programs through PREG our dreams of becoming a mommy and daddy were within reach. I would be lying if I said I didn’t think in the back of my mind “what if we spend this $17,000 and it doesn’t work?” “How will I cope with this failing?”.
After all our test were complete we were told we had a 42% chance of the IVF being successful. This wasn’t a good percentage especially for couples our age but my husband said I’d rather have faith and try then do nothing and never know.
For 2 weeks we drove 9 hours round trip 3 days a week and on Nov 1 one embryo was implanted and 5 embryos were frozen. This was the longest 2 weeks of our lives. 42% success rate replayed in my head over and over.
On November 14th 2017 those two pink lines appeared. Fast forward to July 3,2018 our sweet girl was born. That 42% chance turned into 100% and she is living proof that miracles do happen.
Our journey wasn’t easy but it was so worth it. Many car rides to our appointments I would play this song on klove and it said ” the pain you’ve been feeling can’t compare to the joy that’s coming” and those words are so true. Infertility isn’t spoken about or recognized nearly as much as it should be. It’s real just like the pain and trials that come along with it.
